How to Improve Your Self-Confidence – A 6 Part Series

by Laura Kronen on August 18, 2011

“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”
Peter T. Mcintyre

Without self-confidence, we have a tendency to make poor choices. We make decisions based on fear instead of what is best for us. If you lack confidence, you might fill your life with self-destructive behavior. You might work at a job you despise. You may allow yourself to get deep in debt. You may find yourself moving from one bad relationship to another. Without confidence, you don’t allow yourself to pursue your dreams.

There are many approaches you can take to build confidence. This Be You Only Better mini-series will illustrate how you can work on your confidence and self-esteem in every aspect of your life, both personally and professionally.

The first way you can build confidence is by Taking Action.

Get it done. Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like a sense of accomplishment. The most important step in building self confidence is simply to take action. Work on something and get it done. Cross it off of your to-do list.  Sitting at home and thinking about it will just make you feel worse.  It seems simple doesn’t it?  But it is not always easy to do.

One of the best ways to do that is to Be Present. If you live in the current moment, then you will be more apt to doing what needs to be done. There is little emotional resistance because that kind of baggage results from past experiences and future anxieties.  Instead, being in the present puts you in state where the right actions often just seem to flow out of you in a focused and relaxed way.

Do not take yourself so seriously.  Lighten Up. If you take whatever you are about to do too seriously, it will feel too big and too difficult and too scary. If you just relax a little bit. you will soon realize you are creating problems for yourself.  With a lighter state of mind your tasks seems easier to get started on.

Desire the Outcome. You have to really, really want it.  When you crave for something so strongly, then taking action isn’t something you have to force and it becomes a natural easy thing.   It’s something you can’t wait to do.

Self confidence is the difference between feeling bound and determined and feeling scared out of your mind. Your view of yourself has an immense impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.

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