How to Move on After Tragedy

by Laura Kronen on December 16, 2012

It’s hard for so many of us to fathom that monsters like that one that walked through the doors of Sandy Hook Elementary School really exist.  As a mother of two elementary aged children in fourth and first grade, I cannot comprehend it, no matter how hard I try. I am drawn to looking at the little faces that are no longer with us and reading about the faculty who were brave and protected our children in the face of death.  As much as it hurts, I feel the need to know who they were and to honor them and to pray for their families.

I have cried many tears and said many prayers but this senseless tragedy will forever haunt me and most other families for eternity, especially those it has immediately affected. My heart is aching for them and I am emotionally numb.  Over a decade ago, I lived in NYC when terror struck on 9/11 and today I feel those same emotions stirring back up inside – anger, fear, and sadness. Although I do not live in Connecticut, this tragedy hits even closer to home. See, I now have more than myself to protect, I have two little ones that I love with the deepest part of my soul, two boys that I would do anything for. It’s that unconditional love that only a parent can feel. If I was able to bubble wrap them to protect them from the world, I would.

As a life coach, how do I suggest to people to move forward when at times like this it seems so hopeless?  The holidays are here and it is supposed to be a joyful time, but it just doesn’t feel right to be happy with such gut wrenching despair so close to home.  My answer is simple.  We will never triumph from this unthinkable tragedy, but we do not have to give in to this poison. We do not have to live in fear. We must go on, and the best way to do that is to renew our life purpose and to be better versions of ourselves. Spread love wherever we go. Be nice to family, neighbors and strangers. Listen to our children and empower them.  Do not let them fall prey to fears.  Start waves of kindness. Help those in need. Try to live in the moment and spend a little more time on the things that really matter. Choose to really “live” for those who no longer can.  It is the best way to honor them.



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NP December 17, 2012 at 8:35 am

Thank you for your beautiful perspective on moving on. Yes I agree that we all should go forward…… step at a time, and as the song goes. “and let it begin with me”

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