Do you want to live your life “on purpose”? Well, take off the cruise control and destroy the default button and start making conscious and deliberate choices. It is time to be proactive and start designing the life you want to live. When you don’t make choices, circumstances will choose for you and you are always just in survival mode or playing catch up, or even worse, acting as a pawn in someones else’s game of life.
So how do we live our life out loud and with chutzpah? It’s pretty simple, just adopt these top 12 tips into your daily life and see how the tides change in your favor and you start to feel excited about every single day:
1. Give everything your all.
As humans, we use only about 10% of our full potential. It’s time to use all you got. Giving half of your effort never moves you forward. My kids asked me the other day why I never lose my tennis matches. My answer to them is because I always plan to win, and I will put forth everything inside of me to do it. So, on the off chance I lose, I still can say that I played like a winner. I will never walk away from a match and say I could have played harder. So focus on your strengths because what you focus on grows and miraculously limitations will disappear.
2. Overcome your fears.
Get out of your comfort zone. Check your pulse. Get an adrenaline rush. Wake up the butterflies in your stomach. This is how you know you are alive! Do you know that every fear overcome is a freedom gained? Cross the things you are afraid of off of your list. You will soon feel invincible.
3. Try something new.
Discover a hidden talent. Sign up for acting lessons, take a mixology course, learn an instrument, go kayaking, try kite surfing, start playing a sport you’ve always wanted to play, start researching entrepreneurial ideas you have had in your head forever. Find something that interests you and explore it. You never know what will come of it.
4. Mean what you say.
You word is golden and when you get right down to it, and take away everything else, it is all you’ve got. So, do what you say you are going to do, value your integrity and keep your promises. This is simple good life practice and necessary business practice. Plus, being a flake is really unattractive.
5. Own your own opinion.
There is a great sense of empowerment when you feel that you are in control of your own life. Stop punishing yourself for past actions. Mistakes and failures add to our character and value and make us human, compassionate and smart. Every second of every day is a new opportunity to begin again. Be the individual that charts their own course. You don’t know whats possible for you until you try. If you know your own value, you have nothing to prove.
6. Recognize we are all in this together.
The world doesn’t just revolve around you. Pay a stranger a compliment. Make other people feel good. Offer your help where you can and do what you can to make the world a good place. Spread the love, it’s the most powerful emotion there is (even though it wasn’t even mentioned in the new Disney/Pixar emotions movie, Inside Out). Do random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty. You’ll be surprised at the real impact you can make.
7. Find your bliss and follow your passion.
Do what makes you happy. Play. Read. Give yourself facials. Listen to music. Take yourself on a date. Eat your favorite food. Make more decisions for yourself. Do what YOU want to do. Try to make a living doing your passion. Don’t let anyone else tell you that you can’t, or its stupid, or not age appropriate or you aren’t good enough. And, if you don’t know what you want for yourself, it’s about time you asked.
8. Believe your life is your responsibility.
No one is coming to save you. If things aren’t working out in your favor, ask yourself what you are doing (or not doing) to make that happen. Stop the complaining and be the victor, not the victim. Being a victim is not attractive, overcoming adversity is. There is no power in blaming other people. When you change the way you think about yourself, your world will change. Own what you know and learn what you don’t.
9. Learn to say NO.
If the answer isn’t “hell yes” then its probably a no. Wow, wasn’t that easy? Makes you think, doesn’t it? If you have to talk yourself into it, it’s probably a no. Once you get comfortable with saying no you will realize that everything in life is a choice. Live with that kind of freedom.
10. Give yourself permission.
Permission to accept compliments. Permission to have bad days. Permission to excel. Permission to get mad. Permission to succeed. Permission to win. Permission to make mistakes. Permission to cry, laugh or scream. Life is about the present. Live in your emotions. Experience the full range of wins and losses and ups and downs.
11. Practice gratitude.
Life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% of our attitude towards what happens. When life’s circumstances are not working in your favor, the one thing you have control over is your attitude. Look for the good things. If you make a habit of doing this, your world will seem pretty perfect.
12. Begin NOW.
Stop waiting. Life is happening right this second. Do not wait for the perfect time, or the perfect relationship, or the perfect career. Don’t put your life on pause as you wait for all your stars to align. Instead, believe that everything you ever wanted might be coming down the pipe today and start living as if it is already here. It’s time to march to the beat of your own drummer and stop tapping along to someone else’s beat. You are YOU and it is time to embrace your “youness” and celebrate. Make the commitment to get yourself started and just BEGIN.