Want to be happy? You need to give up these 8 things.

by laurakronen1 on January 3, 2018

hello happiness

Many people think that if they could add some things to their life, they would be happier.  The truth is, you have to take some things away.  Here are 8 Things to Give Up if You Want to Be Happy:

1.  Give up the self-defeating talk.  The outer limit of your potential is determined solely by your own beliefs and your own confidence in what you think is possible. You begin to fly when you let go of self-limiting beliefs and allow your mind and aspirations to rise to greater heights. Talk to yourself positively, every day.  You are FIERCE.  AWESOME.  A FORCE TO BE RECKONED WITH. And, while you are at it, give up the self-deprecation. It’s a method of negative attention-seeking when we’re feeling down, it’s never funny, and it’s never going to lead to happiness.

2.  Give up the past. When the door of happiness closes, another opens…but we spend so much time looking at the closed door that we cannot see what is usually right in front of us.  You need to put yourself in front of lots of different doors, every day, to have other options.  Wallowing in self-pity will never, ever open a door.

3.  Give up your resistance to change. One of the keys to success is continuous personal change.  Personal change is a reflection of our inner growth and empowerment. So many people are scared of change, and they remain stagnant.  That’s the quickest road to misery.

4.  Give up your excuses. The only thing standing between you and your goal is the story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it. Excuses are rationalizations we make to ourselves about people, events and circumstances. They are invented reasons we create to defend our behavior, to neglect taking a particular kind of action, or simply as a means of negating responsibility. Living a life of excuses will certainly prevent you from reaching your truest potential and happiness. Take responsibility and accountability

5.  Give up complaining. As a strategy, complaining does not work. We all have finite time and energy. Any time we spend whining is unlikely to help us achieve our goals. And it won’t make us any happier. In fact, the more you focus on what’s wrong, the more that will come your way.  Negativity attracts negativity.

6.  Give up on your fears. Facing your fears robs them of their power.  Have the courage to take risks. Go where there are no guarantees. Get out of your comfort zone even if it means being uncomfortable. The road less traveled is sometimes fraught with barricades, bumps, and uncharted terrain. Have the courage to accept that you’re not perfect — and that’s OK.

7.  Give up living your life to other people’s expectations and stop comparing yourself. Don’t let others determine your worth. Your greatness is revealed not by the lights that shine upon you, but by the light that shines within you. We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others. Your gifts and talents and successes and contributions and value are entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world.  The only life you can control in this world is your OWN.  Don’t waste another second thinking about someone else’s.

8. Give up blaming others. Yes, there are times when something is legitimately not our fault. Blaming others, however, keeps us in a stuck state and is ultimately rough on our own self-esteem. If something doesn’t work out, it’s easy to get creative and find some reason why it’s someone else’s fault. We like to find a cause, that isn’t ourselves and not take ownership for screw-ups.  Admit your mistakes.  They happen to the best of us.

Starting today, give up on all these things that no longer serve you, and embrace the happiness that follows!



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