Do not put off reading this article.  Yes, I know you are busy.  Yes, I know you will read it tomorrow.  But just humor me and read this now.

Wow, you did it!   One of the most common problems that people have is procrastination. We know what we want to do and should do. But still we end up spending hours upon hours doing “easier” work or escaping via TV, blogs or daydreaming. Nothing is wrong with a little escape from time to time. But, if you procrastinate too much, you will never get the important things done. And you will also send yourself into negative spirals where your self-esteem plummets and you spend days getting down on yourself for accomplishing the bare minimum.

So what can you do? Here are 7 timeless tips to help you to stop procrastinating and start living your life more fully and more productively.

1. Stop thinking. Start doing. Now.

A bit of planning can certainly help you to achieve what you want to achieve. But do not plan too much.  A lot of planning and thinking tends to have the opposite effect. You think and think and try to come up with “the perfect plan”, one with no mistakes, where you will never be rejected, where there will be no pain or difficulties. The perfect plan does not exist. But if you keep working on it you will protect yourself from possible failure and from actually having to make a move. So, forget about perfection and just get at it!

2. Don’t blow a task out of proportion.

Putting off an easy thing makes it hard. Putting off a hard thing makes it impossible. You will be making mountains out of molehills. The more hours and days you put something off the worse it dwells in your mind. And since you are putting it off you are most likely thinking about negatively. This makes a little thing a big monster that is threatening to ruin your life.

So plan a little and then take action. Or, don’t plan at all.  You have been there before and you know what needs to be done. So stop thinking and just do it no matter how you feel and what you think.

3. Just take the first step.

When you start to look too far into the future any task or project can seem close to impossible. And so you shut down because you become overwhelmed and start surfing the internet aimlessly instead. That is one of the reasons why it is good to plan for the future but then to shift your focus back to today and the present moment.  Focus on taking the first step today.  Often the first step is the hardest.  When you finally begin, you are halfway done.

Put yourself in state where you are positive and open to make that first move. You won’t be able to see the whole staircase anyway because it constantly shifts along the way.  That’s why the best of plans tend to fall apart at least a bit as you start to put it into action. You discover that your map of reality isn’t really reality. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will gain momentum.

4. Start with the hardest task of your day.

Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves. Maybe you have an important call to make that you also fear might be uncomfortable. Maybe you know you have gotten behind on answering your emails and have big pile to dig into. Maybe you have the last five pages of your paper to finish. Whatever it may be, get it out of your way the first thing you do.

If you start your day this way you will feel relieved. You feel relaxed and good about yourself. And the rest of the day – and your to-do list – tends to feel a lot lighter and easier to move through. It’s amazing what a difference this one action makes.

5. Just make a decision. Any decision.

We feel bad when we sit on our hands and don’t take action because it’s unnatural. The natural thing is to be a decisive human and take action. When you procrastinate you want to do something but you don’t take the action that is in alignment with that thought. This leads to internal conflict.

What you do always sends signals back to you about who you are. Sure, doing affirmations where you say to yourself that you are confident can help you. But taking the confident actions you want to take over and over again is what really builds your self confidence and a self-image of you being a confident person. When you procrastinate you lower your self esteem and send signals back to yourself that you are either not capable or an indecisive person.

6. Face your fear.

It’s hard to just take action. To risk looking like a fool. To make mistakes, stumble and inflict pain upon yourself. To take responsibility for your own life. The easier choice can come with a sense of comfort, with a certain level of success, pangs of regret for all the things you never dared to do and a vague sense of being unfulfilled. You wonder about what would have happened if you had taken more action and more chances.

But, if you never take a chance, you will never get results. AND action makes you feel ALIVE!

7. Finish it.

So much of the stress that people feel doesn’t come from having too much to do. It comes from not finishing what they started. Not taking the first step to start accomplishing something can make you feel bad. But not finishing what you have started can also leave you in a sort of negative funk. You feel fatigued or stressed and sometimes you don’t even know why. It’s like someone zapped your inner power.

If that is the case, go over tasks and projects what you are currently involved in. Is there something there you know you want to finish but haven’t yet? Try to get that finished as soon as you can you will start to feel a whole lot better.

Don’t think you have to finish everything you started. If a book sucks, read something else. Using this as an excuse to quit something that feels hard or unfamiliar is not a good idea. But there is no law that says that everything has to be completed.

Now, get on out there and just start doing!

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12 Ways to Live Life Out Loud

by Laura Kronen on January 18, 2018

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Do you want to live your life “on purpose”?  Well, take off  the cruise control and destroy the default button and start making conscious and deliberate choices.  It is time to be proactive and start designing the life you want to live.  When you don’t make choices, circumstances will choose for you and you are always just in survival mode or playing catch up, or even worse, acting as a pawn in someones else’s game of life.

So how do we live our life out loud and with chutzpah? It’s pretty simple, just adopt these top 12 tips into your daily life and see how the tides change in your favor and you start to feel excited about every single day:

1. Give everything your all.

As humans, we use only about 10% of our full potential.  It’s time to use all you got. Giving half of your effort never moves you forward.  My kids asked me the other day why I never lose my tennis matches.  My answer to them is because I always plan to win, and I will put forth everything inside of me to do it.  So, on the off chance I lose, I still can say that I played like a winner.  I will never walk away from a match and say I could have played harder. So focus on your strengths because what you focus on grows and miraculously limitations will disappear.

2.  Overcome your fears.

Get out of your comfort zone.  Check your pulse.  Get an adrenaline rush.  Wake up the butterflies in your stomach.  This is how you know you are alive!  Do you know that every fear overcome is a freedom gained? Cross the things you are afraid of off of your list. You will soon feel invincible.

3.  Try something new.

Discover a hidden talent.  Sign up for acting lessons, take a mixology course, learn an instrument, go kayaking, try kite surfing, start playing a sport you’ve always wanted to play, start researching entrepreneurial ideas you have had in your head forever.  Find something that interests you and explore it. You never know what will come of it.

4.  Mean what you say.

You word is golden and when you get right down to it, and take away everything else, it is all you’ve got.  So, do what you say you are going to do, value your integrity and keep your promises.  This is simple good life practice and necessary business practice. Plus, being a flake is really unattractive.

5. Own your own opinion.

There is a great sense of empowerment when you feel that you are in control of your own life. Stop punishing yourself for past actions. Mistakes and failures add to our character and value and make us human, compassionate and smart. Every second of every day is a new opportunity to begin again. Be the individual that charts their own course.  You don’t know whats possible for you until you try. If you know your own value, you have nothing to prove.

6. Recognize we are all in this together.

The world doesn’t just revolve around you.  Pay a stranger a compliment.  Make other people feel good. Offer your help where you can and do what you can to make the world a good place. Spread the love, it’s the most powerful emotion there is (even though it wasn’t even mentioned in the new Disney/Pixar emotions movie, Inside Out).  Do random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty. You’ll be surprised at the real impact you can make.

7.  Find your bliss and follow your passion.

Do what makes you happy.  Play. Read. Give yourself facials. Listen to music.  Take yourself on a date. Eat your favorite food. Make more decisions for yourself. Do what YOU want to do. Try to make a living doing your passion. Don’t let anyone else tell you that you can’t, or its stupid, or not age appropriate or you aren’t good enough.  And, if you don’t know what you want for yourself, it’s about time you asked.

8. Believe your life is your responsibility.

No one is coming to save you.  If things aren’t working out in your favor, ask yourself what you are doing (or not doing) to make that happen.  Stop the complaining and be the victor, not the victim. Being a victim is not attractive, overcoming adversity is.  There is no power in blaming other people.  When you change the way you think about yourself,  your world will change. Own what you know and learn what you don’t.

9.  Learn to say NO.

If the answer isn’t “hell yes” then its probably a no.  Wow, wasn’t that easy?  Makes you think, doesn’t it?  If you have to talk yourself into it, it’s probably a no.  Once you get comfortable with saying no you will realize that everything in life is a choice.  Live with that kind of freedom.

10. Give yourself permission.

Permission to accept compliments.  Permission to have bad days. Permission to excel. Permission to get mad. Permission to succeed. Permission to win. Permission to make mistakes. Permission to cry, laugh or scream. Life is about the present.  Live in your emotions. Experience the full range of wins and losses and ups and downs.

11. Practice gratitude.

Life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% of our attitude towards what happens.  When life’s circumstances are not working in your favor, the one thing you have control over is your attitude. Look for the good things.  If you make a habit of doing this, your world will seem pretty perfect.

12.  Begin NOW.

Stop waiting.  Life is happening right this second. Do not wait for the perfect time, or the perfect relationship, or the perfect career. Don’t put your life on pause as you wait for all your stars to align. Instead, believe that everything you ever wanted might be coming down the pipe today and start living as if it is already here. It’s time to march to the beat of your own drummer and stop tapping along to someone else’s beat.  You are YOU and it is time to embrace your “youness” and celebrate.  Make the commitment to get yourself started and just BEGIN.

 

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Want to be happy? You need to give up these 8 things.

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Happy Thanksgiving 2017! What Are You Grateful For?

November 20, 2017

Wow!  Another Thanksgiving is already upon us.  I love this time of year because I always take the time to stop and reflect on all of things I am grateful for in my life.  Sure, we all have problems and challenges, and sometimes you can even feel helpless, but when you really think about it, […]

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Undeniable Beauty Olly Gummy Vitamins Review

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Mally Beauty Perfect Prep Under Eye Brightener Review

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  Everyone always asks me how to improve the look of dark circles under the eye area.  Well, I have found it and call it sunshine in a tube.  This Perfect Prep Under Eye Brightener by Mally Beauty is quite possibly the most effective product you could have for brightening the under eye area or any area of […]

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Sol Janeiro Brazilian Kiss Cupuacu Lip Butter Review

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Happy Mother’s Day 2017

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There is something about being a mother that you can’t quite put into words.  Before having my two boys, I thought that I loved intensely, but that was nothing compared to the love I now have for my children. This otherworldly love transcends all past experiences in my life. I feel the need to fiercely […]

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A 3-D Approach to Skincare — Jan Marini Hyla3D HA Activating Complex Review

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There was something different about my skin and I wasn’t the only one noticing. I actually think I am starting to age in reverse.  Is the fountain of youth in the coconut water I’ve been drinking so much of, or could it be Jan Marini’s Hyla 3D HA Activating Complex that I have been using […]

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Fresh Vitamin Nectar Vibrancy Boosting Face Mask Review

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An Eye Cream that Does Everything – Algenist Eye Renewal Balm

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